"Im leaving" threads

that seems too #harsh, maybe admins/mods can just delete the "I'm leaving" thread

Usually from past experience with other communities, mostly small knit chans when someone announces their leaving 80% of the time their not actually leaving and their going to come back. Other 20% seems just to want to try to stir up emotions or something.

If your going to leave just leave, pm people you want to stay in contact with some details on how they can get a hold of you and go there is no need for a thread about it.

Ares wrote

idek wrote

that seems too #harsh, maybe admins/mods can just delete the "I'm leaving" thread

If you say that you are going to leave then you are going to leave, whats the point in comming back? I think it would be a good thing if staff gave them a perm ban to help them leave the forum for good since they already decided on their thread that they were leaving.

What about deleting the thread and giving them a warning? That could work.

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yeahh i just noticed

Ares wrote

Mez wrote

Usually from past experience with other communities, mostly small knit chans when someone announces their leaving 80% of the time their not actually leaving and their going to come back. Other 20% seems just to want to try to stir up emotions or something.

If your going to leave just leave, pm people you want to stay in contact with some details on how they can get a hold of you and go there is no need for a thread about it.

Thats called wanting attention. Something like the #Feels channel on the lewd discord server had A LOT of. Hence why if someone makes a "Im leaving" thread they should be banned or atleast the thread should be junked + warning for making one.

Well it can be, probably most of the time. Either way such discussions should probably be deleted I'm for that. Just instigates drama.

I never said I'm never coming back. Perma banning people is way too harsh. I don't actively check the site anymore and I only respond to my own thread because it makes logical sense. My thread will die.

BTW I'm replying here because this thread was brought to my attention by a friend.

IIRC, Senpai himself said that it happens pretty often. It's gotten to the point where he just reads it as "I'm taking a break."

Still, making a thread announcing you're leaving is definitely poor form.

Ebola threads, or lounge threads in general, are already removed from this tidbit, yuu.

In my opinion, if you do decide to leave, just stick to this decision, at least for a while. Decisions like that are meant to be thought through; if you know you're going to regret leaving, then don't leave at all. If the decision is half-assed, don't even bother.
The ones doing it strictly for attention, upon receiving said attention, will be punished - if only by myself. You leave, then you no longer care - lewd is the past you can only remember, not something you can just check as often as you used to (looking at @Inkjet Printer). If you need a push in that direction, just request a ban, you can always get unbanned by messaging us on discord/email we will give you upon banning on request. One message saying goodbye is alright, but actively talking after your leave does not give you any more credibility, and rather makes you seem untrustworthy, so that's something to consider.

tl;dr - you don't want to leave, then don't, and if you do, stop checking this place as if you're still a part of it, and not its history. If you regret your decision later on the road and feel like coming back, you're always welcome, as long as you're not only doing it for the attention.

lewd is harder to quit than cocaine.

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>noone has to feel bad cus you never knew who the user was ;((((((((((

THIS

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it seems kind of moot to give them a warning when they "leave" for a month and the warning would be expired

I think that, for the most part, when people announce they're taking their leave, they don't actually know whether they /really/ want to leave or not. And while the amount of threads has been increasing, I don't think it would be right to warn, or ban a user for it. Correct me if I'm wrong, but wouldn't that be akin to one saying "goodbye" to a teacher at their school, but then being expelled when they next come for not saying "see you later" instead?

I honestly don't think it's to start drama--I've never seen a leaving thread start drama. And also, some people lurk after they "leave", and while it isn't much of a goodbye if they are still logging in, they aren't contributing, so they are essentially a "ghost", perhaps.

Back to my first point, since I'm really bad at sticking to a single idea, I don't think people who leave really know if they want to or not, and this is why you see some people still browsing, even after they've said goodbye, or even coming back in some cases. I find it childish if you play the whole "I'm leaving. I'm coming back" game over and over. That's just me though.