Would you consider yourself to be a shut-in?

malmon Lol. Reporting back in 2 years later. No longer a shut in and I do have some very good friends now.

But on the topic at hand. Since I am gravedigging this thread 🙂 I used to be a legit shutin/neet during my days of university 5 years ago. For a whole year. Almost never went out, only to the store 5 minutes before closing time to get food. Or order takeout. Never went to school, never had any friends.

Weird times. I actually miss it sometimes when living the wage life these days. If it werent for the fact that I financed my neet lifestyle on accumulating student debt back then.

      Yuu_ That's good! I've kinda not spent very much time out these past couple of years, aside from work, and seeing friends a few times >_<

      Yeah, working sucks, but I guess it's at least... arguably morally better than being a NEET lol

        9 days later

        As my involuntary holiday from work draws to a close, I find myself creating miniature skits in my mind of possible conversations I'll have at the office.

        I'm not exactly a people-person... in spite of how much I like people. >~<

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          Backlash Haha, I can relate. I usually do this before telephone conversations, when calling someone I don't know personally (like making an appoint with a dentist or hair cutter).

            a month later

            Reporting in 2 years later. I am about the same as I was before. Although I live someone else now and I wish I had the same great roads I skated on back then. The sidewalks at my old place were great and the routes I could take were pretty diverse as well. Things have been the same for me the last while, but in these next few years is when I really make decisions that will determine my life. No pressure me. I wonder if it will shake up my life or not.

            9 days later
            3 months later

            I wish I could isolate myself more from people. I know it's played out at this point, but I really do struggle with anxiety and functioning day to day. I can feel the issue getting worse every year, I'm scared I'll have a nervous breakdown someday and lose everything I worked so hard to earn. Simple tasks most people don't have trouble with like phone calls or going grocery shopping are brutal events I dread dealing with. It gets particularly bad when I don't have any down time to unwind. Of course, I still have to do them, because I would suffer more if I didn't do the minimum to function in society.

            Some people dream of retiring when they get old, I dream of being alone.

              Minty I guess I can't really speak for everyone, but I personally really wouldn't recommend isolation. The loneliness would get too much >_<

                  Minty Sounds like something that's worth working through with a behavioural therapist, maybe? Especially if you feel the issue getting worse.

                      mnl I've tried that several times, therapy seems like a scam to me. Maybe it works for some people, but it doesn't do anything for me except empty my wallet. I'm at a point in life where I've just accepted this is how I am. The best I can hope for is to cope with my situation. \_( '~ ' )_/

                      malmon It's not all bad, it's just something I have to work around. I really enjoy staying home and doing a lot on my computer, I've even started to build my career around limiting direct contact with people. In a weird way, my problem has become a catalyst for how to go about living my life. I do have a small close-knit network of people I talk to and enjoy the company of from time to time. Even as isolated as I would like to be; I understand I can't completely cut-off all contact forever. Just wishful thinking.